The ONGO Book

For our brief time on this wonderful planet,

we must bow deeply to one another,

to Earth,

and to all other sentient beings,

and resist with the power of love

anything that creates or stands as a barrier

between ourselves and the whole kingdom of life. 

Alycee J. Lane


ONGO is one of those programs that leaves me lost for words. Ironically it is about finding the words, the words to express our feelings, needs, sadness and pain. The words to express our joy, value, worthiness and love. 

It has taught me so many valuable lessons on how to connect with others, how to be with difficulty, grief, resentment and fear without having to fix or change it in any way. It has taught me to listen deeply beyond the words to the needs being expressed. It has taught me to deeply appreciate each person as an individual with their own unique set of experiences, sorrow and burdens and to hold that person with respect and kindness. It has taught me to value the silence. 

ONGO has supported me to be a better communicator, a better listener and a better friend. I also know myself better, I have had the opportunity through each time that I sit in circle with each group that I hold to heal, repattern old learning, to practice new skills and to be honoured and respected as I believe all people are worthy of. 

 I think it leaves me lost for words because it touches me so much deeper than that, it touches me at a soul level and has given me so many gifts that I find it difficult to put into words. 

New programs starting get in touch if you would like to have your own experience of sitting with others on the ONGO journey. 


Marshall B. Rosenberg

“As we’ve seen, all criticism, attack, insults, and judgments vanish when we focus attention on hearing the feelings and needs behind a message. The more we practice in this way, the more we realize a simple truth: behind all those messages we’ve allowed ourselves to be intimidated by are just individuals with unmet needs appealing to us to contribute to their well-being. When we receive messages with this awareness, we never feel dehumanized by what others have to say to us. We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.”